Where our attention goes, our energy flows.
Let’s take a good look at what’s getting our attention. Are there things and people in your life that are zapping your time, energy and love?
It’s a good question to ask ourselves because for every yes, there is a no.
Anytime you say yes to someone or something, you say no to something valuable like;
Spending quality time with loved ones
Having energy for things you enjoy
Having time to prepare good meals
Having space to just be.
When deciding where our attention goes, it pays to distinguish between the shiny things and the diamond.
Too often, shiny things become a habit of nature. When we continually jump in to help out (or rescue) we can do people a disservice. It robs them of the chance to find a solution themselves and be empowered by their own independence and resilience. We also rob other people of the opportunity to step up. If we are the ones who always offer our time and energy, there is no space for other people to show up and display their generosity.
“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” Prentice Hemphill
But saying NO doesn’t come easy to all of us. Next time, try using these simple phrases:
Sorry, I have other tasks to do today.
Not this time but do ask me again in the future.
Helping is what I love to do, but I have another commitment.
Boundaries don’t always involve another person. We need to set boundaries with ourselves too.
Have a think about these:
- Not answering work calls on your day off
- Taking a lunch break
- Stop eating when you’re full
- Going to sleep when you’re tired
- Leaving the phone behind when you workout
- Saying yes to what lights you up and no to what is draining you
What kind of boundaries will you set for yourself in this current season?