Choose The Diamond

Choose The Diamond

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Where our attention goes, our energy flows. 

Let’s take a good look at what’s getting our attention. Are there things and people in your life that are zapping your time, energy and love?

It’s a good question to ask ourselves because for every yes, there is a no.

Anytime you say yes to someone or something, you say no to something valuable like;

Spending quality time with loved ones

Having energy for things you enjoy

Having time to prepare good meals

Having space to just be.

When deciding where our attention goes, it pays to distinguish between the shiny things and the diamond.

Too often, shiny things become a habit of nature. When we continually jump in to help out (or rescue) we can do people a disservice. It robs them of the chance to find a solution themselves and be empowered by their own independence and resilience. We also rob other people of the opportunity to step up. If we are the ones who always offer our time and energy, there is no space for other people to show up and display their generosity.

“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” Prentice Hemphill

But saying NO doesn’t come easy to all of us. Next time, try using these simple phrases:

Sorry, I have other tasks to do today.

Not this time but do ask me again in the future.

Helping is what I love to do, but I have another commitment.

Boundaries don’t always involve another person. We need to set boundaries with ourselves too.

Have a think about these:

  • Not answering work calls on your day off
  • Taking a lunch break
  • Stop eating when you’re full
  • Going to sleep when you’re tired
  • Leaving the phone behind when you workout
  • Saying yes to what lights you up and no to what is draining you 

What kind of boundaries will you set for yourself in this current season?

Why Go On A Retreat?

Why Go On A Retreat?

We live our lives by a rhythm – the background beat of work, rest, play; how we spend our days, what we prioritise and who we are being.

Much like waves in the ocean, our life’s rhythm changes regularly. With the different seasons in life we need to check in often, to see what is working and what is not. Those decisions that worked in the previous season, may not be best for our body, mind and soul balance in this new season. Taking the time out to be quiet, pause and retreat into ourselves, to assess the current rhythm of our life, is 100 per cent vital to our wellbeing.

Going on a retreat helps us to get back in touch with our values and see how they align to what we are doing and who we are being. Giving yourself the space to do this kind of check in, often requires getting away from your everyday physical environment, getting out into nature and allowing your body to open up pathways to your mind and soul. It can mean giving yourself the patience, as nature does, to listen to what your soul needs right now.

Giving yourself space is a gift in today’s time-poor world.

The custom of going on a retreat has been around for centuries. Set in tranquil, off-the-beaten-track places in the midst of nature, retreats promote our own development beyond the distractions, the fatigue and the frantic pace of everyday life.

Organised retreats have many benefits. When you save up, register and plan to join a retreat, your personal review has already started. You have, in that moment of investment, decided to make yourself – your wellbeing – the priority in your life.

The venue, the nutritious meals and the classes are all organized for you. All you need to do is turn up. Wellbeing experts guide you through holistic sessions that help you find your peace, find your balance and reconsider what counts. I once heard this referred to as ‘loitering with intent’.

At an organized retreat, the connection with other people is safe, honest and deeply gratifying. We are made to be in relationship with each other and when we share our rhythms of life with other like-minded individuals, we are inspired to be our best self. Often, we meet lifelong friends who really care about our journey and go on to be our most encouraging friends.

So are the benefits worth the investment?

It goes without saying that when we deliberately step outside of normal routine by withdrawing from the noise and pressures to be in a quiet place where all our senses are tuned in, we get to know ourselves better. We become more aware of our life’s rhythm and we invite change from the inside out.

These benefits are long-lasting. Not only to ourselves and our own lives, but to those we connect with.

When our background beat has a steady and balanced rhythm, this renewed joy and peace is of great benefit to all. At work, at home, in the community. It rubs off on everyone.

I invite you to Rest. Connect. Create at our transformational retreats for women.  It’s the best investment you can make.

Living From The Inside-Out

Living From The Inside-Out

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Peeling away our layers, to discover who we are at our core, can be uncomfortable and scary. 

The layers of fear and judgement can be all that we know. They help us operate as we are today. But when we peel away these layers (stored emotions, beliefs, stories), we come to a renewed place of trust and love for ourselves and others.

When we were born, our mind was like computer hardware beginning to take on what we saw and heard around us.

As we aged, we continued to download software (information, beliefs, experiences) from parents, friends, family, media. Our minds have kept filling up with core data which has created a lens for us to see the world through. 

Sometimes, these old stories and beliefs that we hold onto are quite simply – lies.

They can take up a lot of space in our life and they become us. The journey to discovering ourselves is about letting go of the “software” (the blocks) that prevent us from being present to the loving person we are. These stories prevent us from being filled with wonder and gratitude. 

When we practice mindfulness, we are not taking on the job of fixing ourselves – mending our thoughts to better conform with those long-running beliefs we’ve come to know as truths.

Instead, by being mindful, we are peeling back what’s on the surface; we go inside, we are in the present (void of any past thoughts, future worries or planning) and we start to live from the inside-out rather than the outside-in.

We gain the ability to let go and breathe and connect to who we really are. In what ways are your long-held beliefs and stored emotions holding you back?

If you would like to discover more, book in a FREE strategy call with Amanda.

Healthy Hormones

Healthy Hormones

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Whenever my energy takes a dive or my body feels out of balance, I pause. Then I take a look at my lifestyle and ask myself: What can I modify?

– Sleep, stress, diet, exercise, spiritual health?

 

Nutrition has always been a passion of mine for as long as I can remember. Studying nutrition didn’t stop once I received my qualifications. I continue to research and learn and I love helping others to find a sustainable approach to aligning their diet and lifestyle.

This month I’m taking on board my own learnings and increasing my intake of broccoli and brussels sprouts – the B team!

Both are in season and help immensely during peri-menopause. The B team are the cruciferous connection to healthy hormone metabolism. These plants, cultivated for centuries and originally used as medicines, contain an active ingredient known as DIM.

DIM affects estrogen metabolism in the body, breaking it down into healthy metabolites. Unhealthy metabolites cause estrogen to activate heavy periods, weight gain, mood swings, depression, low thyroid symptoms, and greater risks for cancers. The B team help rid the body of unsafe hormone build up.

By eating plenty of cruciferous vegetables; baked, sauteed, or lightly steamed to retain their natural fiber, you will notice a considerable difference in the balance of your hormones. Try steamed brussels sprouts with sea salt or with onions and garlic. Tonight I whipped up a stir-fry with the B team sprinkled in tamari sauce. Delectable!

For more information on whole-being nutrition or our menopause health courses, get in touch with Amanda.

“I loved the workshop – I am now seeing life through a menopause lens and it’s been good to make that adaption.” Brenda, Auckland

Keen to learn more ways to embrace Menopause naturally? Join us for our upcoming Menopause Online Workshop!

An interactive webinar to help you understand your menopause journey, why our hormones behave a certain way and what we can do about it.           learn more here.

 

How to Escape Hustle Culture

How to Escape Hustle Culture

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It’s not enough.

If you don’t hear these words daily, you certainly feel it.

In our hustle culture, we get sent messages all the time that there needs to be more activity, we need to take every opportunity, we need to hustle to get ahead. What is this causing us to be? What impact is this having on our mental and physical health?

As women, we put this pressure on ourselves in our career, our family life, our fitness as if we are not enough just as we are. We know we’re hustling. We know we’re stretching ourselves and we know we should stop the cycle for our health’s sake, YET we can’t seem to change it.

Here’s the thing my friend, we are not meant to go and go and go. As humans we have been designed to rest. So then what keeps us in this cycle of hustle?

Mindset.

Deep rooted broken soundtracks.

And that is why it’s not enough to just introduce new habits.

Creating habits is just the outer layer. When you get to the core soundtracks in your brain that are running the show, only then can the pattern be fixed. When you activate powerful brain science and change your brain at its sub conscious level, your ability to live outside of the hustle culture becomes real.

But have compassion on yourself! This hustle cycle is normal – the world wants us to overachieve. It wants us to stay stuck in hustle – achieving and performing, doing more, being more, getting more. Instead, we have to be willing to be counter-culture and put our emotional, physical and mental health first.

Headaches are my alarm. They are my reminder that I’ve been stressing about something. So I make a point to stop and ask myself; What is hustling achieving? How is this making me feel good about myself?

When you’re wired to achieve, it’s hard to change. From one type A to another, I hear you! But getting to the root of the forces driving the hustle is gold. Using the thought transformation method, you learn how you’re contributing to your own issues and you work out what stories you’re telling yourself, that are not lining up with your core values.

What is it that you need to do, to step away from this hustle and find rest and peace and abundant life?

If you want to learn more about how to create lasting change in your life, get in touch with Amanda for a FREE strategy call.

 

 

Our DNA Is Created For Rhythm

Our DNA Is Created For Rhythm

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What rhythms do you have in your life that restore you?

There are three rhythms in my life that revive my soul – rest, connection and creation.

Rhythm is all around us. From the rhythm of the tides to the rhythm of the sun setting and the moon rising, we were made to be rhythmic beings. Our heart beat, our pulse, our breathing. All in rhythm.

When we rest – truly rest in body, mind and soul – we are pursuing physical health as well as emotional and spiritual health; all that is unseen and yet so important to our whole health as a woman.

So much of our everyday life is contingent on how we feel, yet for so many of us, we walk through our days on automatic pilot.

In this rhythm of rest and restoration, we deliberately pause to identify our needs, fill ourselves up again and everything builds from that.  From a place of rest, we are energized and ready to put out into the world again. This is where the rhythm of connection comes in. Connection is all about our relational health. So many of our hurts happen within the boundaries of relationship but then, so does a lot of healing.

It is in the rhythm of connection that our soul is nourished and only then can we begin to create. When we are seen, heard and loved in the absence of shame, we go on to create beautiful things. New attitudes, new mindsets, authentic art, writing, music, dance… creation is endless. It all comes down to addressing the disconnect and finding healing by setting new rhythms so we can be our best self.

When we’re not working in rhythm we are working against our own design.

If you are overwhelmed, stressed, lonely, searching for clarity, the healing can be found in setting new rhythms. Schedule a FREE call with me and I’ll help you get started.

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